Families and caregivers, as your child grows and begins to face new challenges, it's common for them to experience learning anxiety. After all, most learning occurs just beyond our comfort zone. Confusion is common when we are learning new things. And it’s good to let students work through the struggle as they learn. However, if the uncertainty spirals into anxiety, it may be time for a brain break.
"Children experiencing anxiety need to know that it is common and that they are not alone,” said Dr. Sheryl Feinstein, a respected professor and author in child psychology. “They need to have positive coping mechanisms that work for them and build on their strengths, interests, and talents. They need to have a support network that includes teachers, parents, peers, and professionals who can provide help and guidance.”
So, here are ways to recognize and cope with learning anxiety in your child.
First, keep an eye out for signs of stress, such as avoidance behaviors, physical symptoms like headaches and stomach aches, and negative self-talk. These can be indicators that your child is struggling with anxiety.
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Physical symptoms: Children experiencing learning anxiety may complain of physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, or tiredness. They may also show signs of restlessness or fidgeting.
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Avoidance behaviors: Your child may begin to avoid situations that they find stressful, like going to school or participating in activities they used to enjoy. They may also have difficulty initiating tasks or require constant reassurance.
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Emotional changes: Children with learning anxiety may become more irritable or emotional than usual. They may be easily upset, have mood swings, or become overly sensitive to criticism. In addition, they may lash out when they are feeling overwhelmed.
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Perfectionism: A child who struggles with learning anxiety may feel that they need to do everything perfectly, which can cause them to become overly critical of themselves and others.
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Negative self-talk: Children with learning anxiety may engage in negative self-talk, constantly putting themselves down or worrying about their abilities.
It's important to note that not all children who experience stress will exhibit these specific symptoms, and some may show other signs of distress. The key is to be aware of any changes in your child's behavior or mood and to address any concerns as they arise.
It’s not possible to eliminate stressors in life, and helping children understand and manage anxiety is a lifelong skill. But, according to Dr. Clark Goldstein, NYU School of Medicine, acknowledging anxiety without giving in to it will help children learn to cope.
Here are some ways to cope with learning anxiety in your child:
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Be supportive and empathetic, and avoid adding pressure, but don’t empower or reinforce fears
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Encourage realistic, positive self-talk and help your child re-frame negative thoughts.
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Break down tasks into manageable steps.
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Talk through what to expect.
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Help your child develop effective study habits, such as time management, note-taking, organization, and calendar use.
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Promote a positive and healthy lifestyle, including adequate sleep, exercise, and nutrition.
Remember that every child is different, so it's important to tailor your approach to your child's individual needs and personality. If your child's anxiety interferes with their daily life, seek professional help. A mental health professional can help your child learn effective coping strategies and provide additional support.
Coping with anxiety takes intention. But as Dr. Sheryl Feinstein says, "With time and support, children can overcome anxiety and achieve their full potential." So, be patient and offer your child the help and support they need to succeed.
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